... what kind of a mentality should I keep in my mind in that foreign country? Hi Dave, I am a mechanical engineer in Turkey who works for the Italian Car Manufacturer group FIAT/ALFA ROMEO in Bursa (a city app. 3 hours away from Istanbul). I am 28 years old. I came accross with your stuff 2 years ago by chance while surfing in internet. I tried your mentality (or let's say philosophy) and as i guessed i got plenty of gorgeous outputs since i was not already at the first steps of the path (to be honest your glorious/famous article "10 reasons why very intelligent man fail with women" was just enough - for an enginner as you reckon). I gave up being an analytical-thinking-man not only about the girl stuff but also about the other main aspects of life (e.g. business life, whatsoever). I suppose that you used to be an engineer and man, your EQ is extremely high, hell yes! (not to praise you in a "You are the man / you are the guru" way, I really mean it)! By the way sorry for the indirect explanations and lengthening my phrases but you know; not our mother tongue :-). Here is my question; - Nowadays i work in a project in Naples (South Italia - 2 hours to Rome) for 6 months (3 months are already gone) and for the remaining 3 months, i really don't want to be alone there. In Turkey i am in a serious relationship that seems to be ended up with a marriage (i know man here, at that point, i lost you :-) but good news i got my hottie with your techniques, so please keep reading me :-). South Italian girls are great, the type that i love (brunette with light green eyes). The problem is; they don't speak English, not a common word, they can't even pronounce Mc Donald's (if you heard, you would faint :-)). We are taught Italian in the company, yes i can speak it basically but not like my English of course (not slangs, not shortcuts, etc), i can handle all the technical daily problems at work and in the meetings but certainly not enough for the social life (and of course not for creating intelligent C&F jokes at a sudden). As a result i always hesitate to approach them. Yesterday i just read your newsletter about having fear and thought about it. I don't have fear about getting negative results, trust me man if you advice i can approach 50 girls in a mall, that makes 350 girls in a week (in fact, to be honest, trying so much makes me be bored, and also i am not in the "gathering experience" or "overcoming fears" phase, i don't need and want to ask that much, i know i am gonna get fed up by time) but i really don't think that it will work. Oh, i feel like you said "try to find one who is both beautiful and speaks English", but, actually i found some but their English was like the "new-stepped-to-the-land-of-USA" type Koreans or Russians (didn't say to humiliate, was just in L.A. in 2003 - yeahhh, great times man!.- and came accross with those type of guys). So this time these Italian chicks lose their confidences against me while we English and start to get bored (by the way "beginner English speaker Naples girls rate" is something like one in a million :-), remember that). Now man, if that is fear of me, just tell me i am not gonna deny it, or what else can it be? What do you advice me to do or what kind of a mentality should I keep in my mind in that foreign country. Just motivate me! Grazie in anticipo, mio amico. Chi sentiamo dopo. Ciao.   Just use your first name and valid email as your password - then click the “Free Instant Access!” button to enter (Use the same password when returning. All information kept 100% confidential). Allow the next page a few seconds to load.   First Name: E-Mail: We take your privacy very seriously. You can read our entire privacy policy here. ©2001-2008 David DeAngelo Marketing Inc, DDMI All Rights Reserved. "Double Your Dating" and "David DeAngelo" are trademarks used by David DeAngelo Marketing Inc. By entering, you agree to terms and conditions found here. By entering your email address you are also requesting and agreeing to subscribe to our free Dating Tips email newsletter. You must be 18 or older to enter. And you can look at all of our different dating advice programs here. Or read dating advice, or customer emails.